Part 2: Stages: A Handbook on Men and Relationships – Chapter 20

Chapter 20 We made it home at a little after 10 pm. I instantly walked in and turned on the radio, which was routine for me. Janice walked over and turned it down. “What are you doing?” I asked. “I really can’t stand loud music late at night.” “That wasn’t loud.” I turned the radio Read More …

Part 2: Stages: A Handbook on Men and Relationships – Chapter 19

Chapter 19 Stage Three Amendment Two: When everything is stated and it’s honest and sincere, there is a feeling that comes over you that makes you shiver. It isn’t a small thing. It’s very noticeable and you remember it. It is the moment you realize that maybe you’ve found the right person. I had to Read More …

Stages: A Handbook on Men and Relationships – Chapter 15

Chapter 15 Sometimes the Lord puts people into your life for a reason. Why question everything? Then again why not? I’m not saying doubt, or that I don’t believe, but you have to wonder. I still was bothered by what Flip told me and I just couldn’t make sense of it all in my head. Read More …

Stages: A Handbook on Men and Relationships – Chapter 13

Chapter 13             “You look beautiful Janice.”             “Thank you.  Your hairline is kinda crooked.”             “No it isn’t.”             “It is.  The right side is a little higher than the left and a little bit is still over the ears.”             “For real?”             “I’m just messing with you about the hair over the Read More …

Stages: A Handbook on Men and Relationships – Chapter 12

Chapter 12 So, if the easiest thing to do is lie, what is the second hardest thing to do? Maybe the hardest thing to do sometimes is tell the truth. I guess if telling the truth is the hardest thing to do then remembering what your lie is must be the second hardest. One of Read More …

Stages: A Handbook on Men and Relationships – Chapter 11

Chapter 11 Considering all the things that come about in a matter of minutes, do you ever think that if given a chance you would go back and make all the things you’ve done right or better? I’m sure you do, I do to an extent. The people I may have hurt and the things Read More …

Stages: A Handbook on Men and Relationships – Chapter 10

Chapter 10 After placing the napkin in my pocket Flip looked at me like I was crazy. “What did you just write?” “Nothing.” I couldn’t let him see it. The things that went into my journal at the time were private. I looked around the club to see who was in the house. I wanted Read More …

Stages: A Handbook on Men and Relationships – Chapter 9

Chapter 9 “In thirteen seconds the tape will flip itself over if nothing is being played.” Flip said. I drove up to Flip’s crib in La Jolla to look at his new stereo system. He had bought a CD player and a tape deck that did a lot of technical stuff that we usually consider Read More …

Stages: A Handbook on Men and Relationships – Chapter 8

Chapter 8 After church I made sure to call Ros up and let her know I was thinking about her. She told me how much she enjoyed us. I reciprocated her thoughts. “I hope we can get together more often,” she said. I thought, “I don’t. I like it once a week if you don’t Read More …

Stages: A Handbook on Men and Relationships – Chapter 7

Chapter 7 I picked up Ros from her house, which was off of Euclid. Not the best part of town, but her mother’s home was in a quiet section of Southeast San Diego. I always felt that Flip and I were the only Black men that stayed above Highway Eight, which ran east to west Read More …

Stages: A Handbook on Men and Relationships – Chapter 6

Chapter 6 Thankfully, everything had worked out with Laney leaving and all. I had been rapping with Ros for almost four weeks. We hadn’t gone out because of conflicting schedules. My job and Laney held me captive. Ros’ son and work held her captive. But the weekend when Laney left, our clocks became magically synchronized. Read More …

Stages: A Handbook on Men and Relationships – Chapter 4

Chapter 4 I guess it’s time to lay down the law for you about the stages. As I said, this book is going to be a process. The stages, how can I explain, about three years ago after I met Flip I began to realize something about myself. I also recognized things about other brothers, Read More …

Stages: A Handbook on Men and Relationships – Chapter 1

Chapter 1 Smooth, smoothness, smoothnicity, which is the act and philosophy of being cool, is all in the mind. Check this out, last week I was sitting at the barber shop having my fade tightened up so my waves would be on point for the weekend. I’m sitting in the chair rapping with my man Read More …